The father of my kids..I don't really care if it's moral, I just don't want to end up in jail...is this legal?
This is going to sound cold hearted, so brace yourselves. In advance, we have not been together in over 11 years and have no romantic connection, etc.
Okay, In late October, he had a heart attack and I'm the one that found him, got him to the hospital, etc. He ended up having a triple bypass and was told that he had several previous heart attacks he was unaware of. He was unable to work and had to live with me until April. He is now supporting himself with Social Security Retirement benefits. He is 62.
He is a lifelong alcoholic and smoker. He's expressed his desire to "just die" quite frequently throughout the entire time I've known him and at the moment, really, he's not looking too well. I do check on him, run errands for him and that sort of thing, so if anything happens, I'm likely to once again, be the one that finds him. Just for the record, I am a supporter of euthanasia and making a choice to die in certain situations.
We had a discussion today that led me to ask him if I DID find him dying or comatose again, what would he like me to do? He told me he'd want me to leave him and not call for an ambulance or any aid until I can confirm he is dead. I'm ok with that, it's his choice. I did tell him I want it written down in his handwriting and notarized that those are, in fact, his wishes. This is rather important as he and most people who know the two of us know I've stated I would cheerfully do away with him if there were no consequences.In the seven years we were together he mentally, physically, sexually, verbally and financially abused me to the point I have serious mental issues and screaming nightmares to this day...but the people who know him are unaware of it, they just think I'm kind of a bittcch, I've kept my mouth shut because he had to earn a living. So, I'm not just a happy little psycho or something, I would not actually kill him, but I felt that statement needed explaining.
So, is it legal to not aid or assist a dying person by getting help?
Karhou- Just so you know, he's the one that did the stalking. When I moved out and got my own place, he would break in, copied my keys etc. and just beat me from one end of my apartment to the other in front of our children. He got a job at that time 6 houses away from my apartment, walked by constantly and broke restraining orders repeatedly. He ended up in jail for 3 1/2 years after busting down my door 5 YEARS after I left him and trying to kill me and upon finding out that I had moved, managed to rent a room across the street from where I currently live when he got out. He currently lives only a street away from me and still just walks in my house. I've given up. You want movie rights? There's worse stuff I could tell you.
Thank you, I was unaware of being able to get a DNR order.
Thank you Beast...I love you.
And to all...really, I didn't know I could (and I say I because I will have to drag him to the doctor and help with all the paperwork!) get such an order in place. I think he'll want it as he has been talking about making a will, funeral plans etc.
Posted by futaberry
as of right now, assisted suicide in any context is illegal in the united states. he would, at the very least, need to have legal documentation citing that these are his wishes. he can also have a "Do Not Resuscitate" order requested. even still, his wihes might not be honored if they are in conflict with legal parameters.
long story short: if he goes down, call 911. don't allow his death to be on your hands.
Posted by Karhu Ourson
11 years of stalking. Right there at the end to make sure he knows it was you who pulled the plug? You said it yourself "just a happy little psycho or something".
Can I have the movie rights to this one?
Posted by Sheniquah Idiftl
not sure where you live but some states they can sign a DNR and the hospital will honor it
that paper would just need to be at a place in the house where the paramedics arriving would see it otherwise by default they have to help the patient
usually that's for really old people tho not sure about a 62 year old
Posted by Honeybear's Lady
Look you don't have to go that far. He can fill out DNR(do not resuscitate) paper work. Just have him speak to his Dr. about it. That means if he goes into heart failure again they won't try to restart his heart.
Posted by But Inside I'm Screaming
He needs to see his primary care physician and/or cardiologist for a DNR order. He also needs a living will in his clinic/hospital charts, stating that he does not wish to be resuscitated in the event of cardiac arrest, etc. Look to your conscience as your best guide beyond that. My ex-husband did the same to me.....verbally, physically, emotionally, and financially abused me...but I would call for help and let the medical professionals decide. My conscience would be clean, no one could point a finger, and it would still be respecting his wishes if he has the DNR and/or living will orders in place.
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