afraid to have my first kiss at age 19?? 10 points to best answer/opinion :D?
so i went on an 'unofficial' date with this guy. i'm 19 and i've never had a boyfriend before so i'm new to the prospect of having a guy that likes me. i say unofficial because it was sprung up on me and i didnt expect it at all!. the plan was to meet and then go and study but instead turned into going to the movies (during the day so the cinemas were relatively empty). during the early stages of the film, we were getting quite close to each other and eventually he made a joke about having cold hands and wanting me to warm them up (he's quite a funny guy and saying we both always have cold hands was brought up in previous conversations, so it wasnt random). so not knowing what to do i moved my hand to his hand and he interlaced his fingers with mine, which took me off guard really, but i liked it.(we held hands all the way to the end of the film) throughout the film we both made comments about the plot and stuff and with each comment i would look at him, i would realise that his face was getting closer. now, having never been this close to a guy i moved my head slightly away, even though i didnt want to. partly because i was getting a feeling that he wanted to kiss me and i'm sorta afraid? i cant really explain it but i've NEVER had a boyfriend before and holding hands with a guy is a totally new thing for me, so kissing as well makes me sorta uneasy although i like this guy. i know he's had a previous girl friend so i'm assuming that they kissed, and i'm pretty sure he knows that i've never had a boyfriend.. but i'm still uneasy. i WANT to kiss him but i'm afraid? at one point our foreheads were nearly touching but i moved away. i could see in the corner of my eye that he was licking his lips which made me more scared that something was going to happen soon. i think he realised that i wasnt ready and so didnt try anything with me...
later, after the movie, we sat in a quiet place away from other people and just started talking and stuff. eventually i ended up laying down - ish with my legs over his lap, holding his hand again (initiated by him) and with his other hand on my leg (just above my knee). my head was resting on his shoulder and we were still talking. eventually i ended up poking him in the side and made kind of a joke out of it.. he then said, that if i do it again i need to give him a kiss on the cheek. it took me REALLY off guard so in a really polite way i ended up saying no... he then said if he tickles me if he could give me a kiss on the cheek and again i said no.. now i regret saying no but at the same time i dont. everything in the sort of relationship i have with him kind of started moving more rapidly in the period of one day. and i dont know if rejecting something as small as a kiss on the cheek would deter him. he seemed fine after it and he kept touching me and stuff but i guess i need to know that being afraid to kiss someone is normal? especially at my age.. i mean, girls my age are mums and i'm afraid to kiss.. it seems a but odd to me. i do want to kiss him and have my first kiss experience with him but at the same time i'm really worried and getting quite worked-up about it. was him trying to get me to kiss him on the cheek a test to see how far i would go? i'm quite confused as well..
i would appreciate any opinions about what i should do and also, what he would be thinking.. thank you in advance! :) and sorry if this is really long :/
Posted by Saff-ox
hmmm
Posted by Moonlite
i think you are an easy girl
Posted by bc
i understand that this is going to fast for you. perhaps you should try telling him that. if he really likes you he will understand and take things slowly.
if you really like him, kiss him on the cheek for now.
Posted by Meggo
Well a kiss on the cheek is a very innocent action, and I think he may felt a little shot down. But if he really likes you, then I'm sure he's not just going to give up on you. Next time you two go out, be a little more open. Being shy is cute, so that's okay. But don't hold yourself back from the things you want just because you're nervous. You'll miss out on a lot of opportunities, (as you've noticed) and you'll end up regretting it. If he asks to kiss you on the cheek, nod yes. If he wants to kiss you, and you're not ready, it's okay to say no. But personally I think you'd enjoy it. :)
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